The Narratives You Are Giving Your Power To
We all carry stories.
Some strengthen us.
Some limit us.
Some don’t belong to us at all, but we carry them anyway.
Narratives are powerful.
Not because they are always true,
but because when we repeat them long enough
we start to live by them.
Sometimes those narratives come from pain, from family dynamics, from systems that were not designed with us in mind.
Sometimes they come from things we overheard about ourselves before we were old enough to understand what they meant.
“Too loud.”
“Too ambitious.”
“Too emotional.”
“Not from the right family.”
“Lucky to even be here.”
Or sometimes it is quieter narratives:
“This is just how things are for me.”
“People like me don’t get those opportunities.”
“I need to wait until I’m more ready.”
“This is probably enough.”
And sometimes, the most damaging narratives are the ones we don't even say out loud,
the ones we quietly believe.
Let me tell you one of mine.
For a long time, I believed I was only being invested in because of my heritage.
I told myself I was only offered scholarships, leadership programs, jobs, because I was First Nations, because I fit a statistic, because someone needed to tick a box.
And yes, some investment exists because it should.
Because representation, data and history matter.
That’s not the part I’ll ever deny.
This is the part I had to challenge:
I believed that I was only worth investment because of the disparity, not because of my ability.
That belief had consequences.
I held myself back from applying for non-Indigenous roles.
I believed my relationships would mirror the statistics I grew up around.
But really… It was
me limiting me.
Not culture.
Not policy.
Not statistics.
Me.
And then, one day, I asked myself a question I now ask every woman I work with:
Would you speak to a child
the way you speak to yourself?
Would you tell a little girl
that her future is limited
by where she was born,
what she looks like,
or what systems she was raised in?
Would you tell her
she can only apply for certain jobs?
That she can only build wealth for the next generation,
but not herself?
No.
You would not.
You would tell her to learn, grow, try, fail, rebuild, and build again.
You would tell her she is allowed to live at full capacity, now.
So then the real question becomes
Why are we not telling ourselves the same?
Yes, systems are oppressive.
Yes, structures are unequal.
But not all of the limits we feel are external.
Some of them are internal.
And those are the ones we can change.
One story at a time.
One decision at a time.
One belief at a time.
So, I’ll ask you gently:
What narrative have you been repeating
that no longer deserves your power?
And more importantly
who would you be without it?
You don’t need to erase your story.
You just need to choose who is writing the next chapter.

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